We All Want Genuine Investment

What do you really, truly want?

For yourself?  For your life?

Money, security, happiness, tons of great sex, lots of good friends, stability, a new boat, kids, a great life for your kids.

I'd posit that a healthy long-term intimate relationship checks off most if not all of these boxes.

Because in that relationship there's a balance that reminds you of how awesome you are.

That makes the heart grow fonder over and over with intimate returns on investment.

That reminds your partner why they invested in you in the first place.

Many of us frontload our supposed investment and don't realize how this will set us up for failure.

Beautiful women who "hot girl summer" their way through their 20s.

Rich men who lead with their wallets and spend and overcompensate.

Both thinking that this is attractive.

Both thinking this is really, truly what they want to do.

A woman doesn't want to be bought.  Provided for, yes, but not bought.  And that provisioning happens over a prolonged investment.  She wants you to be invested in her.  And if she gets the sense you've made deposits quickly and freely to other women, it's going to clash with what she wants for herself, and for her life.

A man doesn't want to be worried that you'll woo the next guy.  He wants you to be invested in him.  And if he gets the sense you've made deposits quickly and freely to other men, it's going to clash with what he wants for himself, and for his life.

Wen it comes to intimate relationships, genuine investment is real, repeatable and reciprocal. Investimacy teaches you how to affect this in your current and future relationships.